tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6546468339418636140.post7497665553757891450..comments2024-01-12T04:58:49.069-05:00Comments on Kyrie, Eleison!: Another Mistake About ForgivenessAnastasia Theodoridishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16092531121989260111noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6546468339418636140.post-13674699264037582712008-09-04T14:17:00.000-04:002008-09-04T14:17:00.000-04:00P.S.) The business of "I love him but I'm not in ...P.S.) The business of "I love him but I'm not in love with him anymore" is so shallow, isn't it? Whoever says that has entered into marriage with misguided expectations. Marriage isn't a narcissistic adventure that's all about how deliciously starry-eyed we feel. It's about how much we are willing to give.Anastasia Theodoridishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16092531121989260111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6546468339418636140.post-11125859939147884532008-09-04T14:12:00.000-04:002008-09-04T14:12:00.000-04:00Marriage, certainly, is the sort of commitment we ...Marriage, certainly, is the sort of commitment we should try to heal and restore.<BR/><BR/>But what is a husband to do if he finds out, for example, that his wife has had three abortions behind his back? How close does he want to be to somebody like that? How close should he even be?<BR/><BR/>Or, to turn the tables, what is a wife supposed to do when, like one of those women you see on TV dramas, she finds out her husband has taken out a very large insurance policy on her life and has forged her name to it as the buyer of the policy, and he is the beneficiary? How close should she be after that to her husband?<BR/><BR/>The applicable principle, it seems to me, is "The Sabbath was made for man and not man for the Sabbath." Every rule God has given us was made for us, and not vice-versa. Thus, when its strict application would be inhumane, an exception should be made. The exception will be the lesser of two (or more) evils. It still is an evil, though, and should be acknowledged as such.<BR/><BR/>The breakup of a marriage is always a tragedy.Anastasia Theodoridishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16092531121989260111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6546468339418636140.post-86159591077710769522008-09-04T13:36:00.000-04:002008-09-04T13:36:00.000-04:00"There are times when it is far healthier for all ..."There are times when it is far healthier for all concerned to love from some greater or lesser distance."<BR/><BR/>I'm assuming that you would not apply the above to marriages that are breaking apart? A woman I know has stated the commonplace "I love him (her husband), but I'm not in love with him anymore." It's so very complicated and sad. Just wondering (honestly) what your thoughts might be. I'm not trying to trap you.Fr. Jon M. Ellingworthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05309773504409139312noreply@blogger.com